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Excerpt from my Memoir in Progress

By | August 30th, 2018|

Things became more complicated when Jen found the box where I kept Keri’s pics and letters. I had not told Jen about Keri. She erupted. She shoved me, pounded on my chest. She said I was a cheater and didn’t care about her. Now, I know, technically it is cheating. To be fair though I was already with Keri before I met Jen; I was cheating on her not Jen. After a long talk I professed my love for Jen, told her she is the one I am with and even having sex with, and that I had not even seen Keri for almost a year at that point. Jen promptly took all the pictures and letters, tossed them in a coffee can and burned them. I look back now and think I should have seen the signs of her mania, but I didn’t. I just saw her passionate love [...]


By | August 16th, 2018|

Hotel towels are weird. I mean, the ones they give you for the bath are BARELY large enough to wrap around your head and are definitely passable for use as a mat next to the tub...but the POOL towels are properly sized and can wrap around your whole wet body; tits and all. Which. I am presently having a very weird relationship with lately Not the towels. Also not exactly the tits. My body. This...isn’t about the towels. Except that it totally is actually about the towels. Just stay with me for a minute, ok? I promise there is a point to this. At the beginning of the year i did keto for a bit. It seemed to be going ok. I lost like 20 pounds or whatever. I have since stopped doing keto and am pretty sure I managed to put all 20 of said pounds back on. I [...]

The New Home of the Consensually Speaking Blog

By | January 22nd, 2018|

Hello everyone! So I had a blog site that has been up and down, however I plan on bringing it back fully as soon as possible. The first change is location! If you are reading this you already found it, natively within my home page of As for contributors. I will post not and again, podcasting takes up most of my time, but I will try to pop something up. K.J Kingsley took some much needed ME time to deal with her own personal life and is still eager to write here, return dates will come later. I am thinking of cutting her work load to bi-weekly. A good friend of mine Scarlett Carson is also reading to start writing here, her start date is also in the works and she will most likely post bi-weekly as well. If anyone would like to contribute as well, send me an [...]

Merging the Duality of Beast and Lover: A Paradigm Shift

By | January 2nd, 2018|

I wrote this when I met my sub Mariestar 4 years ago and began our relationship. Still holds true today. I have existed by perpetuating half a life One half Caring Lover One half Raging Beast The two never coexisting Never occupying the same space at the same time. I was the Caring Lover for most of my life It was fulfilling, to an extent. But the Beast taunted me The cage He resided in held true But still the Beast clawed at me It ravaged my soul, devoured me from within Coaxing me to let It free But I dared not. Then I reached a point in my life where I tired, I could no longer sustain His consistent imprisonment. He was a part of me, my rage, my fire, my strength, my desire So I released him for outings, never too long, Long enough for Him to feed [...]

Poem/Lyrics, something like that

By | January 1st, 2018|

I wrote this 4 years ago for my darling sub Mariestar. I had completely forgotten about it until I decided to go through my fet writings this morning. Today I decided to share it. There was a time when all seemed lost Where the echoes of my past were deafening When beaten I raised the banner of defeat aloft And my crumpled soul drifted in the ether When I met you I knew you were the one Not because of your radiant beauty Although the love I felt had already begun Not because of your intoxicating kiss As much as it drives me wild It was born from the simple fact that I love you for everything you do For everything you are And everything you allow me to be I never imagined a time like this would come When my heart, soul, good and evil Would all be united [...]

I’ve Got Lots of Love in My Heart To Give

By | November 1st, 2017|

I have a lot of love to give because I am a human being with human emotions. But for those same reasons, I also have other emotions. Trying to reconcile being polyamorous and feelings of jealousy. In the Western world, it is impressed upon us that monogamy is sacred. We are told that we are going to meet that special someone, we're going to date, we will fall in love, we will get married, we will have children, yadda yadda yadda, and then we will live out the rest of our days with that one single person, our soul mate. While it is true that society is starting to shift their conventional ways of thinking, the idea of monogamy as the ideal situation is still held as the standard. It is generally considered immoral or wrong if one cheats on on their partner. Well, I actually don't disagree with that [...]

Graduate Studies

By | October 18th, 2017|

“Fuck!” Lyra yelled as she furiously back spaced the entire opening sentence of her Art History thesis. Once she realized everyone at the café was looking at her, she visibly blushed and lowered her head a little. She hated people watching her, but this was so infuriating. Lyra had been working on this project all year, she had all her research, references, source material and notes organized. Now that it came time to put it all together, she couldn’t even get past how to phrase the opening line of her Thesis Statement. She even noticed her backspace button was becoming faded; she bit her lip and groaned quietly. At twenty-five and already having completed her BA, she was no stranger to writing papers, in fact she excelled at it. She just couldn’t understand why it was happening now. She sipped her hazelnut latte and sighed. Maybe it was the smell [...]

Learn The Ropes

By | October 11th, 2017|

And then learn some more. You can never "know" too much when it comes to your kinky play. Last week and this week's Consensually Speaking podcast was a two-parter featuring the wonderful and bad-ass Bad Kitty Bondage. I am not going to get into rope bondage specifics in this week's blog because the Bad Kitty Bondage website is a goldmine of really good and useful information. Information that is presented in a much better way than I ever could and with much higher authority than I have. If you're interested in rope bondage, I highly suggest you check out the website Now, moving on to what this week's blog is about. Just like last week, where I put an emphasis on knowing what the hell you were doing when it comes to erotic humiliation, I am now going to drill it into your head that you can't just pick up a rope, [...]

Erotic Humiliation

By | October 4th, 2017|

Humiliation. We humans try to avoid it at all costs. Who wants to get embarrassed by someone or something they did? Just the thought of being publicly, hell, even privately humiliated can cause all sorts of feelings. We watch what we say, we are careful who we spill our secrets to, and we try desperately to not slip on that banana peel. But what does it mean if you get off on humiliation or humiliating someone? This week, I am going to examine humiliation and how to make sure you are doing it sanely and safely. What is Humiliation? Humiliation is the act of humiliating someone or to reduce someone to a lower position in their own or another’s eyes. In other words, it means to embarrass, shame, mortify, degrade or disgrace. The act of humiliating is to make another person feel those things. In general, I think the consensus [...]

Should You Be Giving Away Free Content?

By | September 27th, 2017|

 When you're a freelance writer, it can be important to pony up some of your thoughts for free.   For those of you who caught Gio’s mid-week unscheduled rant, you will completely understand this blog post. If you didn’t catch it, what are you doing with your life? Go back and take a listen! Gio’s unscheduled rant was because of some “feedback” he received for posting an ad. The ad was looking for writers/bloggers to contribute to Consensually Speaking. His ad was quite clear and is not much different than what I have seen advertised numerous times before for content contributors. What was he looking for? He's looking for writers who can dedicate the time to contribute useful and enjoyable content and to do so in a timely manner. Oh, and as stated pretty early on in the ad, it is unpaid work. In exchange, you get to highlight your writing [...]

Excerpt from a BDSM novel in progress

By | September 22nd, 2017|

Some people have asked to see my writings. Here is a sample of a BDSM erotica novel entitled XX that has been in progress. First time writing from a woman's perspective, so I may fuck up, but I have to try: "Oh my god Zooey! You have to see Kevin's Facebook post, he is such a douche!" Zooey smiled at her Chelsea and pretended to give a shit about her friend's newest love interest. She thanked god she didn't even have to pretend to nod in agreement, as the steady rocking motion of the train made her head bob, tilting back and forth ever so slightly upon her slender neck. Zooey just wanted this week to be over, being Friday; all she needed to do was get off this train and get home. She always thought she would enjoy finally being a member of the working world, having graduated from Northwestern six months ago [...]